Boundaries

I know you're wondering why the picture is a cinderblock wall.  This is my boundary for people.  I can build a cinderblock wall between be and you. With love, I can yell at you from the other side.   But all access is demolished.  If I have to put up this boundary with you, not even a bulldozer can break it down.  Boundaries are meant to protect the person they are applied by.  I don't set boundaries to please you.  I set them for my peace and my sanity.  I used to be scared to put up boundaries and limitations around myself.  What I've learned is that there are some who had access and abused the privilege of me.  My love, my putting them first, me ignoring thing I need just to help them. When you give someone that kind of control in your life, it eventually turn from a democracy and slowly becomes a dictatorship.  You become a people pleaser.  As a former people pleaser, I can tell you that no good comes from it. Set those boundaries.  Let people know that there is a limit to the amount of mess you will take from them.  Block them on every social media platform you need to. Block them on your phone.  As the saying goes, out of sight out of mind.  You will see the change in your peace, you mind, your emotions, and even physical changes.  It's time to place boundaries.  Not brick walls.  Cement blocks.  They don't corrode and have a long life span.  Oh, and here's a friendly reminder: NO is not a bad word. It's a complete sentence and boundary.